Habitual

Why do you feel lost when you lose someone?

Or why do you cry when you part from someone who was a very important part of your life?

Why do you feel empty when someone with whom you spent a significant amount of time leaves you?

Why you miss that person even if you fought with that person when he or she was there?

And when you part with them, you feel a gap, a pang in your heart...

Because they were your habit! Your daily habit! You won't feel that pain when you are away from someone with whom you did not talk to on a daily basis. Its your habit that hurts. Not that the person who is gone is not important but that they were in your daily routine. You met them almost daily, you conversed with them, ate with them, took a walk with them. And when you do all the above things alone you used to do together you miss them, and that pain returns to your heart. You miss doing things together. You miss that habit of eating, talking or even playing together. You were HABITUAL of that person. But what happens after they are gone for weeks, months or years. It usually takes only months to pick or change, new or old habit. You become habitual of the new routine. You now eat alone or with other person, you now walk alone or do not walk at all. And gradually this new habit of being alone or being with other person takes place and now that emptiness is less or even gone. True what they say about habits - A nail is driven out by another nail; habit is overcome by habit!

Not that you don't miss them now but that pang is gone which you felt when you missed them. What haunts now is the memory of them. Memory of they being with you. Sitting on that couch, eating on that dining table or playing on the field. But the habit has changed and so have you, you don't cry now...you remember them and cherish the moments you had with them. And then move on and carry on with your new habits, whether pretty or not. This is the reality, this is the truth. Your habit makes you cry. But eventually you move on. And you should, as their loss leads to lamenting,

 loss of their habit is paining,

 but habits are bound to change,

and the memories are to be cherished and put back in cage...of your brain where they still reside, immortal!